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Hi Ripples,

There’s a girl in my American Society class and I’m going to be for real: she is so so fine. I really like her vibe because I feel like she’s just thinking about stuff that other people aren’t really thinking about. I love that. She is always raising her hand to talk in class and if I’m being honest she doesn’t even need this class because she already knows all this stuff already. She’s smart and it doesn’t intimidate me. I really really like it. I was asking her for help with stuff in the class and she is really helpful. I decided I’m going to ask her to be my girlfriend on Halloween, because this girl is kinda emo so it’s probably her favorite holiday. Anyway I bought lots of different gummy snacks for her, like four bags. She’s vegan and stuff and lots of chocolate actually has milk in it and I don’t wanna have a bad impression on her giving her milk when I know she doesn’t screw with it. I THOUGHT I was considering her circumstances but I found out gummies aren’t vegan since they put pig noses in there. What do I do with all my gummies? I think I bought too many bags. Also what do vegan girls eat? And do you think she likes me?

Sincerely,

Lovelorn

Dear Gummed-Out,

Hey there! First of all, let me just say that I’m thrilled for you! Having a crush on a girl can be one of the most exciting things, and I’m glad that it has happened to you. However, I understand that liking a cool girl can be a bit confusing, so I’m loving that you are taking initiative. 

That being said, I would suggest that you don’t ask her to be your girlfriend right away. Sorry if I’m wrong here, but from what you’ve told me, it seems like you mostly only interact with her during class. If you ask her to be your full-on girlfriend out of nowhere, she might feel a little weird. Instead, I think you should just ask her on a date. That won’t diminish the fact that you’re making a gesture, but hopefully it also won’t scare her away!

I’m also not sure if this girl being emo automatically means she is a huge Halloween fan. Don’t get me wrong, a Halloween-themed date could be really cute and memorable, but I think it’s important that you don’t make too many assumptions about this girl if you want to date her. Ask her out before Halloween so that you have some time to think of plans. Then, whether you’re watching scary movies, carving pumpkins, or whatever, you can take that time to get to know her. Who knows, maybe she prefers Easter or New Years.

Now for the candy situation. Your idea is really cute; I think something is definitely there. You messed up a little bit, but that is okay. Eat the gummies yourself or give them away at lunch. It’s crucial that we move past the gummies. If you have any leftover money and want to buy her treats, then hard candies will generally be safe for vegan girls, but next time, please check the ingredients! If you are suspicious of an ingredient, then Google will be your friend. You’re right in thinking that getting her vegan candy will leave a good impression.

Whether you’re getting her candy or not, I think you should make a little sign or note for her. You’ve told me how highly you think of her, and I think it’s about time that you tell her.

Sadly, I don’t know if this girl likes you. The only real way to know is by asking her, but I think that if you heed my advice you will be ready. Be nice, be honest, and be respectful. You got this!

Sincerely,

Khan, Soltayshinne